Life’s Connections

On Facebook, I posted a picture of three “older” ladies with umbrellas kicking up their heels. One even has a small, black and white dog on a leash. That could be us before the passing of my sweet Emma.

img_4698I posted the picture because I liked it. The ladies appear happy and they seem to be sharing a happy moment together. It’s the goal. So let’s go beyond the Facebook “Friends” we make with a click and take a moment to honor the true friends we love.

With the changes in my life, (retirement, moving) my good (and old) friends are a bit geographically rearranged. This means I have to travel to see my out of town friends and make the effort to connect with my local friends.

The caption on the picture is “It takes a long time to grow an old friend. Make sure to treasure them”. Well, maybe enough said, but when I break it down, I interpret “old friend” as “good friend”. In the last few years, I have made some “new friends” that are just as close as the “old friends”. So maybe it does not take a long time to grow old friends.

I think I would rewrite this phase as follows: It takes time to grow good friends. Make sure to treasure them”.

I would also add: “it takes time to grow one’s self as a person, as friend.”

Through-out one’s life, it is the basic human condition to connect with other humans. Many of these connections we are lucky to consider to be our friends.

When we are grade school age, we tend to make friends with the neighbor kids or the one sitting next to you in the third grade. These are the basis for many life long connections. But as your personal life evolves, you become involved in special interests, a sport or a relationship and these original friends may drift away or settle in the background, ready to catch up through out your life’s journey. These are “good friends” and “old friends”, the older we get!

Once out in the real world, we attract a new set of friends; work colleagues, someone living near you and friends with similar interests and life style.

The mystery of the “love connection” as filled volumes of books, discussed over countless adult beverages and still we often don’t understand our own attractions. I think the friendship connection is just as complex. In addition to “old friends”, and “good friends” I would like to introduce the concept of an “intimate friend”. This is a rare individual that can grace our lives with great value. I am blessed with friends that I treasure, “old”, “good” and/or “intimate”, they are a big part of life’s journey.

Just one more type of friend I would like to mention. The “effortless” friend. The one you go weeks, months and maybe years without seeing but when you get together, well it’s just like old times, or is it? The time you spend with friends, the ideas you share and the resulting tears and laughter enhances our lives. I think the bottom line here is for us all to be a “old”, “good” friend to those we share our life with.

To you my friends, I love you all!

Cheers

Connie

I HAVE MOVED

In 2017 I moved EVERYTHING!

fullsizeoutput_1351

My mother passed away in December 2016 and in January I found myself moving into a new stage of life without my sweet mother’s love, sound advise and presence in my life. I miss her every day. She continues to be an influence in my life. She was smart, gracious and loved by many. Life is very different without her.

 

 

 

In April of 2017 I retired. I had worked at Hollywood Woodwork Inc for 10 years. Some doubted I would be able to retire but I succeeded in moving my focus from work to life. I think I might have been a little better at working than focusing on life but I am new at this. I will get better. I miss my friends at work everyday. It is a big move when one retires. It changes who you are or who you identify to be. I was a financial operations person who commuted from Portland, OR to Hollywood, FL 9 to 10 times a year. Now I am not!IMG_3035

The fantastic beautiful Hollywood Woodwork Business Ops Team

fullsizeoutput_62dIn August of 2017 we lost our beautiful Papillon, Emma. This has created a new reality for us. With Emma we always considered her comfort and care every time we walked out the door. She was a constant part of our life. We have now moved into a life style where we can walk out the door without looking for the leash. Loosing Emma saddened me beyond belief.

In the first week of December, we made our final move. We sold the condo we have lived in for 10 years. People like to tell you that moving is never fun. They are right.

But we love our new home; we have a great view and very nice neighbors. It all came to together as if meant to be.

IMG_4454

I am ready for 2018. I am ready to enjoy the time to share my life with my family and friends. I am ready to Improve my “focus” on life and become a better person. That will surely help me reach the success I desire and keep me moving though this journey called life.

In 2017 I MOVED.

Paris Dogs

We always considered our Papillon, Emma, to be French. We sometimes thought we might bring her to Paris. That did not happen but we took her pretty much every other place with us.

IMG_2112

 

We shared our lives with her for almost 15 years and we miss her everyday. In her memory, I share with you the Chiens de Paris. The Parisians love their dogs.

 

 

.

923F6585-0BAF-4E56-B74C-AC11EAA4BDB2

 

 

Large or small, dogs cast a big shadow in the daily lives of Parisians. Dogs accompany their owners to places usually reserved for humans, such as

 

 

 

restaurants

B915E510-1FC0-48F7-9422-BE527AFEA283.JPG

And shopping

FF256B55-146D-4461-84FC-A7618BC9416A

Parisian dogs can be seen walking about town, sometimes leading, sometimes following and often waiting, but they all certainly appear to own their space.

I read in another blog that explains dogs might be a bigger part of public life on the street as the Parisian apartments are typically very small and this gives the canines and their parents room to move.

I have learned that dogs are banned from most major Paris city parks. Parisians are very proud of their gardens and parks; to avoid the potential for crottes de chien, dogs are forbidden to enter these green areas.

IMG_0837

Over the years we have visited Paris we have noticed a reduced threat of stepping in “IT”. People are picking up much better these days. Thank you very much!

Dogs are companion to old and young; protecting, playing and some well behaved dogs trotting along sans lease.

J’aime les chiens de Paris

Dogs can also be seen in the art of Paris.

IMG_4245

Merci les chiens parisiens et les Parisiens qui les aiment.

Thank you Paris dogs and the Parisians who love them. ❤️ 

14 Year Journey

scan0009

This journey began in March of 2005. We adopted sweet Emma, a 3 month old Papillon puppy. She quickly took over our lives, sharing our activities, travels and home for 14 years. This did not seem like a long journey when it came time for her to leave us. Emma was a Diva, appearing at the Portland Keller Auditorium in the Opera “Street Scenes”. Together we learned agility, fly ball and rally obedience. Emma almost passed her good citizen training, good dog with a willful mind of her own.

Emma communicated with me on a level I hardly understand. She gave me affection, dedication and unconditional love. The value of the life we shared is worthy of timeless reflection. As I travel through my life’s journey I will miss Emma forever and cherish her memory. I even hope one day to stop tearing up at the mention of her name. Or maybe I won’t.